Though we both have white partners now, in this conversation, Rosita and I ponder what our youth and early romantic experiences would have been like if Asian men had been a predominant demographic in our areas and if Asian men had been celebrated as masculine and desirable and if our own identities as Asian women had been validated by society.
On Wednesday evening, Jeff Yang, Phil Yu aka Angry Asian Man, Dan Matthews (DANakaDAN), and I had a conversation about Asian adoptions to the U.S., Dan and my personal experiences growing up as Asian adoptees, stepping into our Asian identities, and our perspectives on some recent, troubling news stories about Asian/Pacific Island adoptions, including the Myka Stauffer rehoming case, the Paul Petersen case, the murder of Johanne by her adoptive brother, and the arrests of 3 Iranian men for selling babies for adoption on Instagram.
If you felt uncomfortable or outraged reading about the Myka Stauffer adoption case, here’s why: The unique factor about Myka Stauffer is the culmination of almost every adoption trope and controversial practice that there is no room left to say what they, as adoptive parents, did well. This case is about Huxley and the Stauffer family, but it is also about the public’s desperation to believe in the fantasy of adoption and anger at being shown the truth of what can, and often does, go wrong.
Adoptee Citizenship Act of 2019: A Major Step Forward Introduction International adoption is oftentimes talked about in benevolent terms and seen as a new beginning for children who are orphans […]
I recently saw the new Hollywood holiday, feel-good movie, Instant Family, about Pete and Ellie, played by Mark Wahlberg and Rose Byrne, who take in three children through a foster […]
The past couple of weeks, I have had the privilege of traveling to Iceland, Scotland, the Shetland and Faroe Islands on a Holland America cruise. I enjoyed unimaginable scenery with […]
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Every family through transracial adoption has experienced inappropriate comments by onlookers in mundane, public settings like the grocery store, small shops, or like in this video, a restaurant. The nature of transracial […]
Toward the end of last month, my mother invited me to see a play with her by Theatre Lila called Lines. Theatre Lila is a performing arts group that seeks […]
by Rachel Rostad – Korean adoptee, writer and poet, former schoolmate, Fulbright Korea I recently took part in an Adoptees Speak project which inspired the following lil musing about language, […]