About The Author

I am one of the 80,000 adoptees from China who currently live in the United States. I was born in Nanjing, Jiangsu Province, China, and when I was two years old, I was abandoned and taken to the Nanjing Social Welfare Institute, where I stayed for a year. At three years of age, I was adopted and have lived in the United States ever since. I have had the good fortune  to go back to China twice and plan on returning in the near future.

Currently, I am a contributing blogger at Transracial Eyes and writer for Gazillion Voices adoption magazine.

Below is the referral picture my parents received in the mail.



16 responses to “About The Author

  1. I really enjoy your blog and try to keep up with it as much as possible. I’m not an adopted child, but I have several friends who live in the foster system. I wanted to share this photo essay and couldn’t find any other way to contact you. http://imgur.com/gallery/Mxfa2


    • Thanks for sharing this with me. I’ve seen this tossed around quite a bit on Facebook and might write about my own feelings on the comments and project at large once I have a bit more time. Thanks for following!


  2. Enjoyed your consumer culture piece. This middle-aged. overweight, white woman agrees with you. Consumers must stop buying the blond blue eyed white dolls or they’ll keep making them. Some great new companies out there including the Positively Perfect Diva Collection (now featuring Latin and Dark Skinned dolls) are making strides in the ethic play doll market but Asian dolls are falling behind. Adora’s Jasmine doll is one of the most popular out there and one of the only ones out there. At least some companies are starting to get it. Constructive Playthings distributes Today’s Girl featuring Leah and a limited edition Mia who have “asian” eyes but sallow complexions. Toys R Us’ Journey Girls feature Callie who looks like their other dolls with a slightly almond eye shape. Asian play dolls, much like Asian children, are completely underrepresented in today’s play world. And yes, I’m using the world Asian because I’m not sure there’s a better one out there. There are definitely no dedicated nationality play dolls marketed – the almond eyed dolls are always classed as one melted pot of non-white and non-black (note: Carpetina does make some thin bodied dolls with specific origin stories that are very nice but a real exception to the market). It’s sad. I raised a young lady from China after her adoptive mother rejected her. We had many discussions on the limits of copycat play when you look different from your dolls. Thanks for keeping it real.


  3. I love reading, I read more than I should be writing…but in my reading I come across highly intelligent and well-informed articles, and this article is my pick of the week! Thank you and stay strong. I am African-Caribbean-Canadian in a highly dominated “Caucasian” society…for 26 yrs I preserved my voice…I did an extensive amount of observing and ‘journalizing’ everywhere I lived, in every home, community, college, university…I have a voice, thank you, I am so inspired!♥jjf


  4. Is it still possible today that a baby girl would be abandoned at the age of two and taken to the Nanjing Social Welfare Institute? I know of a Chinese woman from Nanjing, who is in her late 30’s and has a sister. They were raised in China with their birth parents. What would a family have to do in Nanjing in the mid 70’s to be allowed to have two daughters?


  5. Taiwanese adoptee checking in. I am not sure if you still check this blog – last I’ve managed to piece together is that you were overseas for four months in Nanjing, starting back in January 2015.

    I’ve read a few of your entries and have to say, I am glad you’ve been around. It has definitely been an interesting take on the mainland perspective of an adoptee who *has* gone back or taken an interest in her culture/language/people. 🙂


    • Thanks so much for reading and commenting – a long time ago! I’ve taken breaks from blogging over the years but feel a strong pull again. I love hearing from other adoptees! Hope you’re doing well!


  6. Wow. What a heart you DON’T have. I can hear the arrogance, selfishness, cold-heartedness, and just generally immature world view you hold! Add into this not a little anger. Anger at the WRONG things, the wrong people, the wrong systems.
    I can tell you are NOT a parent, nor should you ever be.
    Whether an adoptive or natural parent, the sacrifice, gargantuan LOVE, and giving – but let me emphasize that word SACRIFICE again. Those characteristics that go into being a parent is the closest thing on this earth to God’s love, and buddy you just don’t get it.
    I am appalled at your wordy condemnations of adoptions and your naive world-view that foolishly thinks a few changes in politics can change them.
    Shame on you. You have a LOT of growing up to do.
    Frankly, my heart goes out to your adoptive parents to have provided you with such a fine life and education and many thousands more of life opportunities – Only to have such a selfish and ungrateful son become the crusader against international adoptions.


    • Sharon – I am appalled by the fast assumptions and harsh personal character criticisms you have made about me after clearly not reading much of my blog. With just minimal glances, it would be easy to know that I am not a son. I am very clearly a woman and often write about the challenges of being an Asian woman in America. Further, if you had read articles I have written on this blog, you would see that I take a very nuanced approach, being careful to not place blame on all adoptive parents and extending empathy to adoptive parents while revealing the blatant corruption in the system.

      Secondly, your false accusations about my personal characteristics serve no purpose other than to verbally abuse, attack, and shame me. (You literally said, “shame on you.”) You accuse me of being negative, critical, judgmental, and cold-hearted, and then immediately do the exact same thing to me in the extreme. Suggesting that I should never be a parent, for example, is not a constructive comment about the topic – international adoption – and derails from the important conversations that should be happening on this blog.

      Lastly, your comments fall in line with the traditional stereotyping tropes that adoptees need to be extra grateful for their life circumstances as well as the polarization of the “angry versus happy adoptee.” I will tell you that I am grateful to my parents in the same way any child is grateful to their parents for raising, nurturing, and loving them. I am not more grateful to my parents because I was adopted. And while it is nice that you have extended your heart to my parents, please know they are fully supportive of this blog and my work. An adoptee (and adoptive parents) can critique all components of the international adoption system and still love their family. It is not a strict black and white dichotomy.

      Through my blog, I am attempting to give an honest and critical analysis of issues related to adoption and being a person of color based on my knowledge and experiences, while your comments are only attempting to do a character assassination against me because you disagree with my point of view, which should answer any question of maturity for onlookers who read your comment and this subsequent one.


      • 收养的人 – you should never have to defend your body of work against someone who is capable of receiving it. I’m sorry to see that’s happened. Thank you again for who you are and the dialogues you encourage that bring those who are capable forward.


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